The Steps to Changing
If you're truly concerned that your spouse is causing your family stress by changing their job direction, there are a few steps you can take to get onto the path of career stability. Below are three fantastic tips for alleviating stress and sticking with a job.
1. Talk to Family & Spouse
If you're unsure if your family or your spouse feels the stress of your job changing, talk to them. Opening the lines of communication with your family, including the job-hopping spouse, is one of the most critical things you can do in this situation. Hold a family meeting and allow each family to bring his or her thoughts to the table. You might be surprised to find that some people are in favor of your spouse finding their dream job, but fully expect someone to have some concerns to share with everyone.
2. Realize Every Job Has its Faults
When it comes to jobs, there is no Shangri La! Remember that every job is going to have its faults, and your spouse needs to decide if they're worth changing jobs over, or if they might just have their standards and expectations set too high. For example, the problem might be not getting along with one or two co-workers, but otherwise the job is fairly easy, pays well, and offers chances for advancement. Don't let petty feuds between coworkers ruin what may be a chance at a fantastic and stable future. Encourage him or her to stick with it!
However, if you find that a job is too stressful or too difficult for your spouse to perform, changing jobs - or even careers - might be in the family's best interest. Make a list of the pros and cons of the current job, and see what can be fixed or ignored, versus what is a potential deal-breaker.
3. Set Goals
By setting goals, you can reward your spouse and your family for sticking with a job for longer than usual. For example, if your spouse used to switch jobs every few months, set goals for staying longer than that - about every six months. Let your spouse reward themself every time they hit the six-month mark. Who knows, they might even find they like their job and realize other benefits.