Why are MMO Players Such Jerks?

Written by:  • Edited by: Michael Hartman
Updated May 27, 2011
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Anyone who has spent any time playing games online is familiar with the scourge of the internet: the jerks. They ridicule your gear and playstyle while simultaneously revealing their own insecurities.

 

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The Jerk
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We’ve all encountered them. The grumpy elitists who feel the need to mock and ridicule anyone whose achievements aren’t as significant as they perceive their own to be (self-delusion not withstanding).

They sit in trade chat and belittle anyone who has the audacity to seek help with an innocent question and promptly boot anyone from the guild who doesn’t meet their exacting standards for damage or healing ability.

They mock your gear and spec, calling you a noob for being a casual player or not knowing all the latest PvP tactics.

To them, it’s more than a game, it’s their entire life.

It’s unfortunate, because the vast majority of MMO players are just normal people looking to have a good time, take down some mobs, and maybe pick up a new piece of armor or two. Most players are very helpful, and quite willing to answer questions or help a passing lowbie out with quest advice or a free buff.

This article is not about those people. It’s about the bad apples that ruin the entire bunch. The callous and grating people who, while small in number, can quickly ruin the game experience for everyone.

Yes, I’m talking about the jerks.

The G.I.F.T.

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It's True
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Perhaps the best explanation of this phenomenon comes from the guys at Penny Arcade. Way back in 2004, Gabe and Tycho posited the “Greater Internet F-wad Theory.” (Fair warning, the link contains NSFW language.)

Basically, the G.I.F.T. states that the sheltering anonymity provided by the internet, coupled with a ready-made audience, somehow transforms otherwise normal people into total F-wads. Without the consequences that would accompany such behavior in real life, people are free to be the enormous misanthropes they have always dreamed of being.

In order to stand out from the rest of the anonymous mass, people can act out in a negative fashion in order to receive attention. Some think that it’s funny; others actually believe some of the crap they spew. It’s sad that some people are actually as racist/small minded as they appear on the internet; let’s hope they at least manage to disguise it better in real life.

The G.I.F.T. is actually just a clever way of describing what psychologists call the “disinhibition effect.” The lack of any discernible authority, coupled with the “invisibility factor” or fact that people you are speaking to cannot actually see you, leads people to say and do things they would never even consider in real life.

It's More Than a Game

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Get a Life
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To the majority of players a game like World of Warcraft or Warhammer Online is just that, a game. It’s a fun diversion from the real world, a place to blow off some steam or get your mind off the stresses of everyday life. It’s a secondary existence, an escape from reality.

For some people, the opposite becomes true. Real life is just an annoying distraction from their online existence. These people are either so engrossed by the game itself or have such undesirable lives that the game becomes their priority. Work is just a way of earning enough money to keep their internet connection and subscription going. School is just an annoyance that takes them away from the place where they want to be.

Online, these people are more than just the guy who works at the grocery store or the girl who sits behind you in physics class. They begin to feel that the power and prestige of their character improve themselves somehow, and they become addicted to the sensation, constantly seeking further advancement.

When something is this important to a person, they are of course going to defend it vehemently. When the game is all you live for, your psyche simply cannot tolerate anyone diminishing your experience. This can manifest itself in a hatred of newbies who don’t deserve to play “your” game or just a general maliciousness toward the general public.

Of Forum Trolls and Attention Seekers

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Noobs Are Often Targets
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Anyone who doesn’t think that there are many jerks in MMO games has only to spend a few minutes browsing the WoW forums to have their opinion shattered. Almost every honest inquiry or suggestion is followed by page after page of insulting comments about spec, gear, sexual orientation, or certain exploits with the poster’s mother.

There are those who attempt to wade in and actually provide constructive comments or answers, but the deluge of rude and insulting comments is usually enough to scare off all but the most hardy of posters.

I don’t know what’s worse, the fact that people are actually so deluded as to think that insulting someone’s in-game character is somehow personally degrading or that people actually take these insults to heart.

It’s a game. Who cares if you don’t like the way I have spec’d my Druid or that I don’t have the free time to spend grinding reputation to obtain that rare companion pet? Like the majority of players, I am here to have a good time, not to impress some self-appointed authority with nothing better to do than scour the armory for reasons to criticize people.

The reality is, these so-called jerks are a very small minority of the total population of any given game. Most people are helpful, normal, well-balanced individuals just looking to get a group together and take down some objective that would be impossible to tackle alone.

A Very, Very Vocal Minority

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The problem is that the jerk minority is a very vocal faction, and their influence usually outweighs the large number of perfectly helpful people in the game, leading them to simply turn off global channels to avoid the stuff these people spew. Unfortunately, this means that fewer and fewer people are now available to help those with legitimate concerns.

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The only real way to deal with jerks is to simply ignore them. Either mute them in-game or simply don’t respond to their nonsense. Don’t group with them, and make sure you let your friends know anytime you run into one of these unsavory characters.

Don’t let a small group of vocal miscreants ruin the experience for you. The same things that give these jerks power can also work to your advantage. The online experience may enable them to reach a wider audience, but the beauty of technology is that you can simply mute them and go about your business.

Now, if only real life had an /ignore function.


Comments

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Travis Bakke Nov 9, 2010 4:03 PM
mmo players being jerks
With the players with poor attitudes they should remember that they were once new as well. If they do stop and take the time to nurture new players it only elevates everyone gaming experience.
Henry Apr 10, 2010 2:22 PM
mainly at chris and some rattle ^^
first on chris his/her post since its an unisex name: seeing as you think ur such a hotshot i guess? You forget one thing that not all gamers are nerds. If u would actually meet the players some are way bigger and more musceld then u'll ever be. Gaming isn't an emo issue which is also something what retards call other people all the time but thats another discussion. I'm 1m80 weighing 85kg with 25% bodyfat just convert it if u want to whatever metric system u use.

Other then that to the rest if they will ever read. The jerks are mostly the kids playing. The real pro-players don't get involved with that type of issues. Also the jerks don't push at all they just stick together like when u fight one turk, 8 show up from nowhere. A casual gamer as u like to call it will just play and never meet a pro-player cause of them leaving a game withing the month-2months just cause there bored, and what remains are the previous jealous noobs who now think they own the server for some reason.

As for ppl that are called nolifers that is the problem of bully's. Its funny how in the old days i just played a game that "the cool kids" played and owned them in there. now i can do both cause of my natural growth changes, but most don't get that lucky.

Next people with lives don't play MMO? don't make me laugh... going out all weekend nights and then game during the day with the girl u picked up in the bar is sleeping out... what else u want in a live?

anyway stepping up to the jerks is a good way to get them pissed off more its a good laugh so keep that up i love doing it ^^ xbox live cod headshot and hear them flame XD

p.s im 22
Chris Dec 28, 2009 1:35 AM
RE: Why are MMO Players Such Jerks?
I have a better suggestion. Stop playing this garbage. It is nothing but digital crack for the people on the emoweb. If the need to play them becomes too strong - go to the gym! Pump some iron! Kill the "gamer" stereotype! That's what I did. I'd rather play a good singleplayer roguelike in my free time. Stuff like that is real roleplaying. Online games however are just a playground for emos, spoiled brats, and overweight losers to waste their time in. I hate mmorpgs with a passion!
a@a.com Aug 10, 2009 3:22 AM
@Manamon
How can you ignore them when they are everywhere. Like Snell and the guys at penny arcade said, it's not limited to just MMO's.

Any F-wad with a computer and an account to any community (forum, mmo, etc), just like to feel good to talk about how great they are or end up belittling someone they have no idea who they're talking to. South Park also got it pretty right in that episode "Make Love Not Warcraft." There is some truth to sarcasm.

Its good you admit to being an a-hole to completely random individuals. Just remember some people actually suicide over such menial stuff. But its not like you'd care if they were the straw that broke the camels back.

Most westerners in general have this superiority complex that they must be better than everyone else. Sadly, most people won't admit to some humility unless it really hits them hard (i.e. Having their home forclosed or losing their job)
D# Jul 21, 2009 11:57 PM
Jerks
The biggest problem with this is that if you want to touch the high-end content in most of these games, you HAVE to deal with these people. You HAVE to get your *** together and learn so much of the minute of the game that they can't call you out about things. Wow has been making it easier and easier to deal without them, it's not hard for a casual 10-man guild to wade into Ulduar 10 and eventually clear most of it. But to do stuff like Obsidian Sanctum with 3 drakes up? Most casual guilds won't even begin to touch that. However, the jerks will push and push and THEY will get it on farm (generally after much whining and crying about repair bills and fingerpointing who's at fault for them). They can be a pain to deal with sometimes, but sometimes they're a necessary evil... and sometimes they can be REALLY entertaining on trade chat.
ManaMon Jul 21, 2009 11:52 PM
RE: Why are MMO Players Such Jerks?
So you're annoyed that you are bad at the game, obviously you've been flamed because of your failure, so this is your rant piece. This article meant to "call out the jerks" now gives you an air of superiority. Because you apparently have a life, and they don't. Except it could be argued that those "with lives" (as you like to call it) wouldn't be playing any MMO in the first place.

Now because my opinion and my own analysis conflicts with your own, and I can't POSSIBLY be right, I'm one of these jerks. Rather then taking a moment to reflect that maybe you really are bad at that game and might possibly annoy others who are good at the game. Why not just embrace your inner-newb, your failures, and truly ignore those players. Rather then highlighting your temper tantrum on the internet for all to see. :)
 
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