When you accept a wedding photography job, one of the first things you want to do is sit down and talk with the bride and groom. This shouldn’t be done casually (if you are close to the couple), but rather; this meeting needs to be a professional meeting to discuss concrete ideas about the wedding photographs.
Remember, this is the bride and groom’s big day. Listen to their ideas about what kind of shots they are looking for. Take these notes down in a notebook that you will continue to use throughout this whole process. Get a feel for what the couple is looking for as well as their expectations.
For example, you may want to ask them if they want you to stay off to the side and the back during the ceremony, or do they mind if you’re right up front and in the middle aisle. This is ultimately their decision, and it will affect what lenses you plan to rent, carry, and use.