Children who are diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) often experience challenges in forming relationships with peers due to aggressiveness, immaturity, and an inability to stay focused during social activity. Friendships can be formed more easily with help from adults.
There are several reasons why children with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) struggle with forming solid peer relationships. The trait of impulsiveness that is inherent with ADHD can cause children to act in ways that their classmates disapprove of. Behaviors such as bossiness, invading physical and social boundaries, being unable to remain calm, and acting aggressively are all related to impulsivity and are major factors in the rejection of ADHD children by their neurotypical peers. Difficulties in staying attentive and on task during social activities such as games or sports can also prevent children with ADHD from blending in with groups. Additionally, because ADHD in children increases the likelihood of social immaturity, typical peers may shun those whom they perceive as "babyish".
Unfortunately, very negative consequences can arise from an ADHD child being unsuccessful in making friends. Low self-esteem that stems from loneliness during childhood is a large contributor to problems in adult peer relationships with employers, co-workers, and social acquaintances. Children with ADHD who lack meaningful relationships with peers are also far more likely to fail classes, quit school, and break laws. Conversely, ADHD children who manage to maintain a few good friendships will experience less stress and will be at a lower risk for developing psychological issues in the future. Because peer relationships are vital for a healthy self image, parents and teachers should be as proactive as possible in encouraging positive social experiences for young children with ADHD.
Adult role models such as teachers, counselors, and parents can take several important steps in helping ADHD children become more adept in social situations. If possible, they should locate a social skills group run by a qualified professional who will assist children in practicing social skills and preparing for various types of social interactions, such as conflict resolution and cooperative situations. Kids who have ADHD often relate better to children who are slightly younger, so providing opportunities for playdates with children who are one or two grade levels behind can help with self-esteem issues and increase the potential of strengthening peer relationships within their own class. Adults should always establish open communication with ADHD children so that they can provide assistance and encouragement when issues with peers occur. Parents can also do their part by joining in with community activities and befriending other classroom parents for support and the arrangement of family outings.
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