Quarreling Children: Your Options Explained

One mother with two growing boys found a good way to do this and at the same time to teach a valuable lesson. Whenever she baked or bought a cake each of the boys would fight for the largest share. One day when they were quarreling over how large a slice they would have, she allowed the older boy to cut the cake and then told the younger one he could take the first choice. Because of a suitable mother, they soon learned to be fair to each other and to the rest of the family as well.

Suppose you see one child hurting another,

what should you do? It is so easy for children to misunderstand the actions of adults. Most active children can take care of themselves fairly well. Perhaps the youngster just needs to let off a little steam. Usually it is wiser just to watch and make sure nothing serious is happening.

However, if one child persists in hurting another, you may have to step in and protect the other child. A cruel, bullying youngster will never grow up into a mature person unless he learns to respect the rights and feelings of others.

Even for his own peace of mind the boisterous child must be prevented from harming other people. A wise parent will seek to control him in a kind, sensible way. Scolding and punishing him may only increase his feeling of guilt and drive him into further misconduct. So, keep your head in dealing with this child. Do not become angry, for this will only deepen the problem. There are times when it may be better to separate him from other children for a while.

Many serious quarrels can be prevented if parents are wise enough to see them coming in advance. Suggest some other activity to take the minds of the children off their injured feelings. If your boy gets too wild in his play, sit down and tell him a quiet story. An energetic child needs plenty of outdoor space in which to play and

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