Adjusting Rules for Students
If your child opts to live at home while in college, you are doing something very right. He is obviously happy with his home life. College is a time when students find ways to live at home, even when he is limited on funds, thanks to financial aid, student loans, and the availability of loans and credit to young students. Even if you cite financial benefits as the main reason for college kids living at home, it is a great sign.
To keep the peace in your family as the student experiences college, keep in mind you will need to change the house rules. A college student needs and deserves more freedom than a high school student. As such, if there is a curfew, expand it. Depending on the maturity of the student, you may wish to lift it altogether, provided he lets you know where he is if he stays out late.
Do you have a no-drinking policy? Consider how that will change when the student becomes of age. If there is a rule for no overnight guests and your college-aged student is in a serious relationship, you need to discuss openly how to handle that situation when he is in college. Adjusting or negotiating the rules may be negotiable, but be clear where you need to set limits.
Also, keep in mind; there are certain responsibilities that you, as a parent, have to take. Because your child is a college student, you may think it is okay for him to party and drink. However, if you supply him with access to alcohol before he is 21, you could be criminally and ethically liable, especially if he spreads it around to friends or if someone drinks while driving. Keep in mind, even though your college student is getting to be more of an adult that you can develop a close relationship with, you still must keep parental boundaries and clear authority when it comes to setting limits and rules.