How Much! Rules for College Graduation Monetary Gifts

Written by:  • Edited by: Wendy Finn
Updated Dec 7, 2011
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Should you give money to a family member or friend who has just graduated from college? Are there rules for monetary gift etiquette for college graduation? Often, it depends on how you found out about the grad and who the grad is. This article takes a look at giving money to recent graduates.

The Graduate and the Degree

Often determining the appropriate monetary gift for a college grad depends upon who the graduate is as well as their achieved degree. First off, if the graduate is a close family member such as a niece or nephew, child, or grandchild, a monetary gift is definitely the correct etiquette. If a friend or co-workers mails or hands you a graduation announcement for their child, unless you are invited and plan to go to either to the graduation ceremony, party, or both, you aren’t obligated to send the grad money. On the other hand, no matter who the graduate is, if you plan on attending the graduation ceremony or party afterwards, you should consider gifting to the grad.

The degree the grad achieves is also important. If they’ve completed their undergraduate degree and you attend a ceremony or party, a gift is a must. If the grad goes on to a higher degree and you are again invited, skip the monetary gift and just send a congrats card.

How Much Should You Give?

Gift House Wikimedia Commons The question of how much you should give to a college graduate as a gift is also important. If it’s a relative and you are an important part of their lives, a college degree was a huge effort on their part, so consider giving between $25 and $50 dollars.

If the graduate is the child of a friend or co-worker, again it may depend upon how close you are with that friend or co-worker. Even so, the children of friends or co-workers aren’t family so consider a monetary gift of $25 dollars or below.

Does It Have to Be Money?

It’s becoming more common these days for even grads to create wish lists at certain department and big box chain stores to let ceremony and partygoers know what the grad needs to begin a career. This can be especially important if the grad has accepted a job that means relocating.

Even if the graduate doesn’t create a wish list, you can always ask the parent(s) of the grad to find out what they need or desire. The amount you spend on a gift should be determined on how well you know the graduate and if you plan on attending the ceremony or party.

Summing Up Grad Gift Etiquette

Just because there is monetary gift etiquette for college graduation and the grads that achieve success, it doesn’t mean it’s always followed to the letter. Only give what you can afford; if the standard $25 is too high for your budget, consider a lower amount. Every dollar will be appreciated by the graduate and will be put to good use. Of course you could also consider other gifts that a graduate might find useful, such as a gift card or vouchers for a favorite store, or even something more useful like a nice pen or a practical gift.

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Supacorean Jan 21, 2012 3:14 AM
RE: How Much! Rules for College Graduation Monetary Gifts
In Asian culture, it's customary to give $100 minimum as monetary gift for anyone (friend or relative), however; for a close relative; you should consider a few benjamins if you can afford it.
Jean Scheid May 6, 2011 2:52 PM
Appropriate Gifts from Parents
To all wondering about appropriate gifts in tough economic times--your kids most likely know this so don't spend more than you can afford! Even a lunch date with the grad or a potluck party is a great gift! Just don't overspend!
barbara carrita May 1, 2011 3:51 PM
college gift to daughter from mom
my daughter is graduating from college this week i am a divorced mom who has a high school education and works in a nursing home making min wage my daughter is graduating with a phycology degree she has kinda of put me down for being a stay at home mom., what kind of gift is approiate
Lisa Deptula May 10, 2010 1:15 PM
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I also have a niece who is graduating from a 4 yr college and going on to school for a Master Degree. I need to know what a good amount of money to give is. She did not pay for any of her own college so far.Please answer soon. Graducation this week.
Jean Scheid May 3, 2010 4:20 PM
To Mary & Sandra
Hi Guys!
I think everyone should consider their budget before purchasing a gift. Keep in mind that if you received a college graduation announcement, families send them because they are proud..not always because they expect a gift. If you can't afford anything, a nice congrats card is fine.

If you want to buy something but don't want to spend a lot, there are many gifts you can purchase between $10 and $20, even a gift card. Use your budget as a guideline.

Hope this helps.
Jean
mary May 3, 2010 2:41 PM
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Hi, my niece is grad from college 4 yr for bachelors she will be going back to college somewhere else to get her masters. I am driving 5 hours to ceremony and reception , we are close but i do not know what would be an approiate amount to give.. I dont want to be cheap but i am not financially rich either. Please help.. Thanks.
MARY May 3, 2010 2:37 PM
GRAD GIFT FOR COLLEGE
HI, MY NIECE IS GRADUATING FROM COLLEGE SHE DID 4 YRS, WE ARE CLOSE AND I AM ATTENDING HER CEREMONY ALONG W/RECEPTION I AM ACTUALLY TRAVELING 5 HR DRIVE TO THIS.. BUT I DONT WANT TO BE CHEAP BUT I AM ALSO NOT FINACIALLY RICH.
SO WAS WONDERING WHAT WOULD BE AN APPROIATE AMOUNT. I HAVE NEVER HAD TO BUY GIFT FOR COLLEGE BEFORE PLEASE HELP
THANKS..
sandra whetsell May 2, 2010 10:13 PM
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my cousin sent me a college graduation notice . she already informed me of this on the phone. They are not having any kind of a party. Are they expecting money? I gave both her kids money for highschool graduation is it neccesary for college too? When does it ever end?
 
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